Relationships are often the most challenging yet the most rewarding and fulfilling aspects of our lives. We all need to feel connected to ourselves and to others. We are not meant to be alone, naturally, as humans, we are pack animals, and need to see our reflection in others to fully know who we are and who we are not.

Human relationships, genuine human connection is essential to our survival just as much as air and water are. We are all hardwired for connection. Life doesn’t come with a manual, and many of us grow up in families where healthy relationships weren’t modelled to us. Our first example is usually parents, caregivers, that often didn’t have a healthy functioning relationship. Our parents didn’t teach us how to have flourishing relationships, and often our childhoods have lacked in meeting our emotional developing selves.

These experiences affect how we relate and interact as adults to others and in relation to the world and how we see ourselves. Many of us went through difficult or painful things in our childhood that we may not realize have had a negative impact on us as adults. Although these weren’t necessarily severely traumatic experiences,

there are still many ways that your childhood affects your lifestyle and ways your childhood is affecting you now. These harmful experiences in childhood can lead to things like self-abandonment, emotional enmeshment, people-pleasing, being emotionally disconnected from yourself or others, identity struggles, or unhealthy relationship patterns… to name a few.

In childhood we learn, we absorb, we observe and can be overtly taught things that can have a detrimental impact on us, have caused us pain, and are still getting in the way of being able to reach our own unique potential as adults. This caused you pain, maybe on a subconscious level, that is holding you back now.

I can help you move through these feelings, understand what is holding you back, and unpack childhood experiences, make sense of what happened to you and how this is still impacting now.
We call these early experiences our formative years, as they inform us while we formulate our selves, how we think about ourselves, others life and we bring those experiences subconsciously into ourselves, as our lives happen, we go through things that have shaped how we feel. Some of these are not healthy, useful, or productive. With the relationship I offer, I can help undo, unpack, breakthrough and discover new ways of living with ourselves and others.

Blame doesn’t come into the therapeutic relationship. Recognising and gaining understanding and insight into past family situations and positioning can help us to feel better about ourselves, understand our own thought processes and lead a happier life. Parents are just older people, who carry their own baggage, often unexamined, unexplored.

Sibling relationships can be understood and improved through therapy.
The relationship you have with yourself can be understood and improved through the therapeutic process.

Happiness is hard work. It takes awareness, dedication, and cultivation.